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Taking Care of Yourself - JBC
By Alan R. Stafford
Care For Yourself to Care for Your Spouse
Believe it or not, keeping yourself healthy can have a lot to do with keeping your relationship healthy. To be able to have a good relationship, you need to have the motivation and the energy to get out and enjoy each other. You need to have the stamina to meet the needs and expectations of your partner.
For this reason, it's important that you eat properly and get a good night's sleep. After all, if you're tired or hungry, you're much more likely to become short-tempered, or frustrated.
Equally important is making sure that you are getting enough exercise. Staying in shape means that you'll be ready for anything your partner wants to do. Taking good care of your body also means that your mind will be healthier. A healthier mind means that you are calmer, stronger, and better-balanced overall.
Taking good care of yourself means that you are showing your partner respect. You've done this by giving your spouse the best "you" that you can be.
Consider the following conflict in logic. While you're still getting to know one another, you and your spouse work hard to be your best. You dress your best, you make sure that you're clean and groomed, you may even work out. When you're first dating, you do everything possible to make yourself appealing and attractive.
Then, once you're committed to each other, that all stops. It seems that when we become comfortable with our partners, we don't feel we need to make an effort anymore. You gain weight, you don't dress as nicely, you stop shaving. Even our teeth aren't kept as "white" as they used to be. We make more effort for a "maybe" than for the person we definitely love!
More strange, is that we're actually surprised at the statement "you're not the person I married." We shouldn't be surprised at all! With that sort of backwards behavior, a statement like that should be expected.
Doing these things – taking care of yourself – aren't just for your own health and long life. They're also a great way to stay respectful and attractive to your spouse.
That's right, daily showers, deodorant, and cologne aren't just for single people anymore. Neither are good grooming efforts such as combed hair and trimmed nails. Keeping yourself fit will not only keep you happy, but your partner too. By wearing nice clothes – instead of the "comfortable ones with holes" – you'll not only feel better, but you'll look better too.
It really is incredible that most people will make the effort for work that they won't do for the ones they love. They'll dress up, shave, and smell good for colleagues, but not for lovers. Remember, your partner is the most important person in your life; is s/he not worth the extra effort?
It's true; you might feel completely comfortable being "yourself" around your spouse. The thing is, though your partner may accept it, why should s/he have to? Do you want your spouse to have to live with a slob? Of course not! You love your partner far too much. So do yourselves both a favor and make the effort. Be the person you were when you were married.
About the Author
Dr. Stafford is a speaker, writer, class leader, and personal coach on topics important to Singles and Couples. As a relationship coach he helps men and women of all ages find the love of their lives and lives that they love. If you're tired of being alone, or worry you're with the wrong person, call or email Alan for a no cost introductory coaching call to see how personal coaching can benefit you.
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