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Why Say I Love You - JBC
By Alan R. Stafford
"I Love You": Say it, and say it often
You know how great it feels when you hear the words "I love you" from someone you love in return. Sometimes, though, it's easy to forget that your spouse may feel the same way. Your spouse will also want to hear you say, "I love you" in ways that seem special and new.
Here are some great ideas for saying "I love you"…a lot:
Rent your partner's favorite movie (even if it's not to your taste). Take the time to plan an evening where you can be alone with your spouse. Watch the movie together and make sure you enjoy the time you share.
The next time your spouse gets out of the shower, do something very special. Warm a towel in the dryer, and have it ready for your spouse the moment s/he steps out to dry off.
If your spouse goes out of town, wash his or her car so that you're driving a clean, shiny car when you pick him or her up.
Even better than all these special treats is to just say the words "I love you." Say it to your spouse, and say it a lot. Several times a day. There are lots of times when you have the opportunity. When you're leaving for work, when you finish your phone call together, before you go to bed at night.
Many people think that this kind of behavior corny or pointless…especially men. Men often feel that they don't need to say the words for their partners to know that there is love there. They feel that their wives just know it. They might even feel that they're showing their love in other ways, so they don't have to say the words. This couldn't be more wrong.
By telling your spouse "I love you," you're accomplishing several things at once. The first thing is openly declaring your love. By doing so, your spouse knows that you're more likely to live up to your statement.
Also, you're reminding both yourself and your spouse of how much love you feel. This may sound silly, but it is a very important mental and emotional process. Any doubt that may have been formed in an argument or a frustrating quirk will be pushed away by the reminder that "I love you."
By saying "I love you" at least daily, you're admitting to yourself that you love your spouse no matter what. Consider it a very necessary positive reinforcement.
Even more interesting, is another accomplishment of saying "I love you". Consider all the marriages that end badly or that result in divorce. Here in the United States, that accounts for over half. These relationships have failed. The couple not only fell in love, but it fell out of love, too.
Falling out of love isn't just something that happens. It's something that slowly builds with time and the wrong types of encouragement. Just a little bit every day, a spouse loses the loving feeling for his or her spouse. Then one day, the love is simply gone and there's no longer any reason to stay together.
Deep down, we all know this. We know that there is a risk that we, or our spouses, may fall out of love. In fact, the odds are that it will happen. That's an awfully large reason to be insecure.
This is another reason that you should tell your spouse, every day, "I love you." Because you're reassuring your spouse that the love is still there. You haven't grown tired, become bored, or fallen out of love with your partner. In fact, deep down what you're really saying is "I still love you". This is a comforting, reassuring statement that we should all hear and all say. Every day.
About the Author
Dr. Stafford is a speaker, writer, class leader, and personal coach on topics important to Singles and Couples. As a relationship coach he helps men and women of all ages find the love of their lives and lives that they love. If you're tired of being alone, or worry you're with the wrong person, call or email Alan for a no cost introductory coaching call to see how personal coaching can benefit you.
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