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The implications of being a nice guy
By Rion Williams
What does it mean to be a nice guy? Is it really a bad thing? Why is it that so many women treat men the way that they do? Well to me the answer is so obvious now it is impossible for me not to see.
I used to think there was something wrong with women (and actually there is), but I understand that it is not their fault. You have to understand where all of these behavior patterns really come from.
The problem has not really been a nice man who is just doing what he thought makes sense by going out and starting out the relationship from a 'courting' perspective. When you start out from this framework, today's carefree, independent woman is going to feel too much pressure or obligation and it's going to squeeze at her own personal liberties. Think Cyndi Lauper's biggest hit...
She really just wants a man who can be a man she can be attracted to instead of the other way around. Much of what a woman says is most likely coming from her social persona which was developed on top of a biological and traditional reality which exists throughout most of the rest of the world. She will say that she wants a tall dark and handsome man with a lot of money and a really large unit, blah blah.
She will often settle for much less for many reasons; primarily because she found a man who does not let her get away with her drama (based on an unbiological paradigm of power). Often of course this will cause relationship problems further down the road because she already is who she is (and this is a whole different topic).
If you are going to be a nice guy and want to marry one of the strong independent women I can almost guarantee you problems down the road. And now these are not natural. It is not natural for women to nag as much as they do. This starts to go into something I call 'cultural differentiation'.
I've found that you can still be a nice guy and naturally attract women to you when you are in a more traditional, natural or biologically aligned environment where the paradigm of power has not shifted. What am I saying? Just go to another country and maybe you will understand how you can still be a nice guy and easily attract women to you. There's a lot of garbage going on in the U.S. that makes a different perception near impossible unless you REALLY get an objective look at it...otherwise it's 100% pervasive.
So really it is not the nice guy that is the problem, however he has to learn to deal with it if he wants to be successful with these type of women. As far as having a long-term relationship with a woman like this (what I call a 50-50 relationship dynamic which is pervasive in our country today), I'm not going to give advice there and you are on your own.
What I teach us how to be successful with women in what you could loosely define as 'dating'. Once you become serious about a woman, that is the whole different set of issues that we have entire industries based upon that can help you deal with it.
Ultimately I think most American men really are 'nice guys' and 'great catches'. They do not have to be jerks either in order to attract now the hottest of women. They really just have to be a pure natural. This means that they do not have to study the pickup artist's or become a seducer or part of that geekier-oriented subculture in order to experience a tremendous level of success with women.
Most American men are not geeky, beyond frustrated men, but are a little more normal and are just confused and wondering what is going on. There are other success with women experts who will tell you you can not be a nice guy, and coming from the paradigm in which they teach (which is to match her forced reality), you can not be a nice guy.
But with what I teach, you can have the most success with women if you come from a pure natural realm of control, natural authority and live in your own paradigm of being closely connected to the man who you really are as well as the universal truths, of which the 'forced reality' has flip-flopped.
Yes there is hope for the nice man of America (and others around the world who deal with 'independent' women), although that dim light has seemed to be faded. If you know that you are a great catch, with what I teach you there is no further reason for you to ever be unsuccessful with women again. Just in the last few years alone, it is reaching a dangerous point (Desperate Housewives, 40 Year Old Virgins, women being more frustrated, men getting more desperate, etc.).
For YOUR success, you do not have to become someone you are not by intensely studying all kinds of techniques that just do not seem right, but you do have to understand the things that I can show you to view everything from a universal paradigm and connect with your pure manhood and get above the 'forced social reality' that taught you how to act and behave (unnaturally).
About the Author
Rion Williams offers a free newsletter subscription on how to have 'natural success with women' and dating.
You can sign up for the free newsletter just by visiting his website 'http://www.mensguidetowomen.com/E_player.htm';
You will receive some free bonuses as well and you can then read about his 352 page unabridged
'Men's Guide to Women' instantly downloadable eBook. It will change the way you think about dating and women forever.
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