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Online Dating; Are You Thinking, Considering and Contemplating When Actually You Should Just Do It
By Cheryl Ashbrook
So you've heard about online dating, maybe even browsed a few online dating sites but you've not actually taken the plunge and set up your personal ad and given it a try? Are you, like many others, making excuses for not doing it? Are you a little nervous, or perhaps worried about what people might think? Here are some of the reasons people give for not giving it a try and the reasons why I think you should.
I'll try online dating when the children are older; If you have young children then it can be difficult to even consider dating particularly if the break up with their other parent has been difficult. But being alone with young children all the time is not good for you, or them! You do need some life of your own to maintain perspective in your relationship with them. We're not saying to disregard their feelings or not to worry about them but online dating is an easy way to get into dating without having to worry about babysitters etc. You can just use it as a way to get to know people, chat a little or flirt maybe, without having to try anything else until you are ready. There are lots of dating tips about single parent dating so you are not alone!
I haven't got over my ex yet; If you have been involved in a relationship then moving on can be difficult and is something you should give time to. However moping around feeling sorry for yourself will not help you get over things any better than going out with the first person you meet and spending an entire date talking about your ex will. Online dating is a good way to take your first tentative steps back onto the dating scene, it's anonymous until you choose for it not to be and there is no pressure. You can engage in as much, or as little activity as you choose.
I can't handle being rejected; Some people worry that online dating could be demoralising as you may well find that you are in contact with several people who will chose to take things no further than an initial date or a few emails. This isn't rejection, its honesty. You will also feel that you do not want a relationship with many of the people you contact, any more than you would with everyone in the supermarket on a Saturday afternoon! It's not a reflection on you or your worth, just that this isn't the person for you.
I don't have time; Really? You have no time to find someone to spend the rest of your life with? You must have a very exciting life for everything in it to be more important! Obviously there are some things that have to be done but surely your happiness should take some priority in your life. Make some time and give it a try, after all you have nothing to lose.
Online dating is risky; It is true that some people using online dating sites may not telling the truth, or could even be trying to con you, but then that's true about some people you meet in bars, or the park or even at work possibly! Whilst you are communicating online then you will be able to get a sense of the person you are dealing with and you will find you develop a gut instinct for people online. Online dating is certainly no more dangerous than many other things in life and you do have control and protection from the dating site until you choose not to. Remember, most people are genuine, so use you intuition, take sensible precautions when you communicate and particularly when you meet but don't let fear stop you, relax and have fun.
So what's stopping you trying online dating? Really it's one of those things that will be easier once you've started so just give it a go, don't take it too seriously or expect too much and like so many others love may just creep up on you when you are least expecting it! Most of all though, have fun, life is all about new experiences and online dating will certainly be that!
About the Author
Cheryl Ashbrook is an author for the online dating tips website www.MaxMyProfile.co.uk which provides online dating advice and services for men and women. If you would like to read our article about online dating safety then why not pay us a visit?
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