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Single Parent Dating
By Cheryl Ashbrook
Many people find dating as a single parent tough, but it can also be a daunting prospect dating a single parent! However, by following a few simple guidelines, you can make the relationship with your new partner and their kids a fulfilling and successful one.
By appreciating that as a single parent, your partners kids will always come first, you will be able to understand that the odd cancellation of plans is inevitable. It is important not to take this personally as unwell children and childcare problems are beyond your partners control and try to understand that you will both be disappointed.
If your partner no longer lives with their children, youll probably find that you are not included in access visits to start with. This is no reflection on you or your relationship. Its just that these times are very precious both to the children and their parent. Avoid putting any pressure on your partner and let them decide when the time is right to include you.
Respect the privacy of your partner and their kids during these times and try not to call too often or drop in. Never ask them to cancel arrangements with their kids. If children get jealous of you before you even meet because you are taking their parents attention away things will not get off to a great start when they do eventually meet you.
If your partner is the full time carer for their kids, it is easy to feel pushed out at times. However, being a single parent is very tough. Guilt and exhaustion are probably the feelings theyll experience more than any other, so dont be surprised if sometimes your partner simply doesnt have the energy to arrange a babysitter for a night on the town. Try to make arrangements well in advance to give your partner time to sort out childcare arrangements and show your understanding of the situation.
In the early days of your relationship, your new partner will probably be very reluctant to let you know personal details. It is a protective instinct and they will be looking from understanding from you. The best way to build trust is to share information about yourself. Dont keep unnecessary secrets. If you are open and inclusive about your background, friendships and work life, your partner will feel more comfortable sharing information with you. However, give it time and dont put pressure on them to give details until they are ready.
About the Author
Cheryl Ashbrook is one of the authors on the online dating tips website www.MaxMyProfile.co.uk which provides online dating advice and services for men and women. If you would like to read more articles on dating as a single parent please visit the single parent dating section at MaxMyProfile.
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