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I Don't Know Why
By Debbie Friedman
¡°I don¡¯t know why you keep trying to be nice to her when she¡¯s made it clear
that she doesn¡¯t want anything to do with you.¡±
I don¡¯t know why it is so hard sometimes to see the truth. I had wanted so
much for her to like me. I had tried so hard and turned my cheek so many
times. I don¡¯t know why there were no thank you¡¯s for gifts or
acknowledgement of things I¡¯d done, no visits when I had three surgeries, no
phone calls, no cards, no birthday or mother¡¯s day celebrations. It was so hard
for me to understand how someone I cared for so deeply could show such
little regard for me. I don¡¯t know why it¡¯s so hard for me to acknowledge that
some people just don¡¯t like me. ME!!??
Impossible, I think. I¡¯m loving, adorable, kind, and just a good person. I don¡¯t
understand. I¡¯d taken some gifts to her for the baby in waiting and she didn¡¯t
even say thank you. I don¡¯t know why she almost resented me. I don¡¯t know
why she hadn¡¯t said thank you for her birthday flowers, either, when I¡¯d gone
out of my way to get flowers to match her colors at home and taken time out of
my schedule to bring them by. Even when I¡¯d made a salad for the Christmas
dinner, as she asked me to, and my son came in to ask where the salad was
she merely said ¡°Oh, no one needed it anyway!¡± No one got up to get the
salad out of the refrigerator and, yet, I was told later that she loved the salad
and went out to buy all the different ingredients the next week.
Staying in the ¡°I don¡¯t know why¡± state develops resentments that lead only to
frustration and pain as we re-live, re-experience and re-create those
experiences in our life.
The simple truth is that we may not know why some things happen. We can,
however, learn our own life lessons, take the wisdom, leave the rest behind
and move on.
Not everyone is able to accept love and caring. Not everyone is open to
receiving. Some people have been so damaged that they become cold,
heartless, and shut down. Some people have had to build walls to keep any
emotions out that might potentially destroy them as they live a life of fear.
I learned that not everyone is going to be nice to me. I learned that not
everyone is going to like me. I learned that there are people I can let go of
with love, blessing them, and allowing them to have their own opinions and
attitudes in life. Their opinions and attitudes do not have to be mine.
I learned that I can choose to be around people who love me and who want
me to be in their lives. I do not have to choose to be around people who
clearly don¡¯t want me there.
I learned that sometimes we have to wake up and smell the roses and realize
that we deserve better in our lives. We do not have to settle.
I learned that I choose to be acknowledged, appreciated, and treated with
loving care and kindness. I not only choose this, I deserve it.
I learned that choices are not always easy sometimes, but being honest with
ourselves is essential.
As you move through your life, remember that every experience is a blessing,
a gift that allows you to gain a piece of wisdom that will make you stronger.
When you have a life experience that confronts you with your own ¡°don¡¯t know
why¡±, give yourself the opportunity to learn the wisdom, release the past and
move forward with confidence, love, and courage. Become grateful for feeling
your emotions as a confirmation that you have chosen to fully participate in
life.
In these precious moments, you move beyond limitations and move into your
full magnificent empowered identity, free from the ties that bind.
About the Author
Debbie Friedman, M.S., C.Ht., is the Manifesting Maven who helps people consciously create the life they love to live. She is the creator of the popular Cleaning Out the Closet of Your Mind for Wealth series.
http://www.CleaningOutTheCloset.com
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