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The Dating Game
By David Chandler
With all the websites on the Internet that offer a membership to
meet and talk to people that match the criteria that you are
looking for, you are bound to find someone worth dating. The
question becomes how can you tell if someone is being honest.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to be attractive and
representing you that way. The way someone presents he or she
says a lot about him or her. If you're browsing through the online
personals and see someone that catches your attention, the next
step would to be to contact them, and ask for a picture if there is
not already one. We all know that the first attraction usually comes
from physical attraction. If the picture is not that appealing we
have a tendency to continue looking.
Dating is the first step in finding a lifelong mate, so don't be in a
hurry, go ahead and take your time. Make a list of qualities that
you want in a future mate. Once you've made your list of qualities,
memorize or carry them with you. These things will determine the
type of person you end up dating. Keep in mind that your list
should not be more than one page, as no one is perfect and you
don't want your expectations to be too high. Everyone has
negative aspects about him or her and it is up to you to determine
if the positive out weigh the negative.
People carry over past relationships to current ones, and this can
be a hurtful thing. Therefore, many people are opting not to date.
Dating may seem like a game, but we should not be selfish
because of our broken hearts and scarred emotions. Dating has
the capacity for good and evil, just like anything else.
Dating can be both very positive or a negative experience. Part of
what makes us is the relationships we have and the lessons
learned from those relationships. We should be more considerate
of the lessons learned and carry them in our lifelong commitments.
The truth is that we are likely to foul up any dating mould we
choose because we are not perfect.
The most important factor we should be looking at is whether or
not we can act upon what is right and say no to what is wrong.
You should encourage yourself to date; as you will never meet that
person you could spend the rest of your life with if you do not.
Relationships do not always end in marriage, and because of this it
doesn't mean we are now less capable of giving someone else just
as much honour, love, patience, kindness, trust. If you choose to
be sincere, devoted, protecting, trusting, hopeful, persevering, and
never failing, I believe your dating years will be incredible years.
Refusing to date tells us that we believe ourselves incapable of
having a relationship in that manner that was intended for us.
Dating can be a positive experience in your life and help us
navigate the waters of maturity and even marriage.
¡¤ Dating can be a source of enjoyment and recreation.
¡¤ Personal individuality is developed through relationships
with other people.
¡¤ Men and women need to find out the kinds of roles they
find fulfilling in a close relationship.
¡¤ Dating involves learning about closeness and serves as an
opportunity to institute a unique, meaningful relationship with a
person of the opposite sex.
¡¤ Dating helps you find the right mate.
¡¤ Dating can provide companionship through interaction and
shared activities.
¡¤ Dating can help prepare you for marriage.
Dating does not have to be frightening, creepy, forced or anything
else but enjoyable. What you have to do is make an effort to make
the dating years enjoyable. Group dating is a good way to make
sure that you abide by the standards that you have set for
yourself. Plan outings with friends, church groups, or whatever,
just to have more fun.
If you never date anyone, how will you determine what you want?
Dating is your chance to have a fairly deep relationship with
someone before you hand over your life to a lifelong marriage.
About the Author
For more information, visit these sites:
http://www.AdultDatingInfoCenter.com
http://www.JewishDatingInfo.com
http://www.GayDatingInfoCenter.com
http://www.ChristianDatingServiceGuide.com
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