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Stern But Loving
By Clark A. Thomas
Listening, learning, and observing your children are very effective ways of getting them to open up to you when disciplinary action is require to getting your child attention. Giving your child your undivided attention by listening is the first thing you should consider doing when things become tensed; lending hearing ears helps makes disciplining become less painful for yourself and your child. Your child or children need to vent to release the tension "build-up" they are experiencing themselves after a hard day at school. Every child has their side of the story of what took place whether at home or at school. By lending hearing ears you give the opportunity to analyze the situation at hand. Give your child ten to fifteen minutes to explain their side of story. This way you will learn exactly what took place after hearing what your child has shared with you. Most parents blast their children and give orders and strict disciplinary actions without getting all the details of the incidents that has taken place in their child lives.
By listening and learning about how they're day went you can now observe and get a clearer picture of the episodes of the day your child is sharing with you. The more your children share with you the easier your job will be when deciding what method of discipline you choose to use. Using the three strikes you're out rule is a good way of letting your child discipline themselves. However you have to be the enforcer and give the sentence as the judge for the disciplinary action to work; this way your child made the choice, but you as the parent or guardian made sure the discipline was carried out to fulfill the purpose of the disciplinary action. Your child will see you as being fair and loving while providing stern but loving actions to help strengthen their character and development. Disciplining your child is a must; however make sure you do it in a loving way. I've experienced this type of disciplining and it helps me as a single-parent to keep my child on the right track when she loses focus. Use whatever disciplinary action you feel will be most beneficial for you and your family.
By doing so; your child will always come and let you know how they're day went and share with you everything they really want to talk about. Open your eyes and your ears to hear from your child; this way you will be able to give correction and proper instruction. Your children are here to bring you joy. Enjoy your child or children and always be open to their "well-being." Your child or children are an asset to you and not a liability. Look, Children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of your womb is a reward. Psalm 127:3. If you are struggling with your parental rights and responsibilities sign-up to receive tips on life in general and I can help you with your parenting concerns.
Copyright © 2006 Clark A. Thomas
About the Author
Clark A. Thomas, business expert, consultant and author, he discusses how to make single-parenting much less stressful. Writing articles has helped him become known online, get more newsletter subscribers and sell more products online. He's sharing all the secrets he has discovered in his Articles tips@custodysecretsnow.com. Newsletters available at http://www.custodysecretsnow.com
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