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Parents Can Help Each Other At Christmas
By J Gardener
The first few years that they were parents, Gail and Darin dreaded the stress
of the Christmas season. The difficulty of shopping with a child in a stroller
made an already arduous task even more tiring. The only way to avoid taking
their baby daughter with them was to do all of their shopping seperately, while
one spouse stayed at home. They avoided Christmas parties, caroling with their
friends, and many of the activities they would have loved to take part in. They
weren't bitter or begrudging-they loved their daughter and loved being with
her-they just found that the constant attention a child requires prevented them
from enjoying many of Christmas's traditions.
By the time they had their second child, a son, their little girl was in
preschool, and Gail and Darin knew some of the other school parents-parents with
the same Christmas-time issues. But, along with the other parents, they
developed a solution, by forming a babysitting pool.
Around Thanksgiving, the parents share their planned schedules with each
other via e-mail-which nights they've been invited to parties or other holiday
functions which might not be enjoyable for their kids, etc. They also share the
dates on which they're willing to babysit each others' kids, including weekend
days, when most people do their shopping. Then someone in the group collates all
the information and dates, and draws up a calendar, with each set of parents'
babysitting schedules. And usually, each household only has one day or night for
which they're responsible for the other families' children.
And the group, as a whole, strives to make each family's babysitting night or
day as easy and effortless as possible. When they drop their kids off at the
designated baby-sitters' house, they also drop off food or games for the kids to
share, so everyone shares the time and expense of the pool.
The kids all love the plan because it means that three or four times a
season, they go to "parties" with their friends, where they're much more
comfortable than they would be at Dad's boss's house or running from mall to
mall while Mom and Dad shop. The parents love the plan because their kids are
being supervised by other adults they trust.
And the parents who babysit always end up enjoying their time as well.
Besides the food that the other parents drop off, they can rent videos to keep
the kids occupied, or supervise games with holiday themes. One family loves to
have all the children help to trim their Christmas tree and decorate their
house.
At the end of the season, Gail and Darin's group gather at one family's house
for a New Year's Day party-they usually hire a babysitter for the day, and
reserve a portion of the house for the children, while the parents gather
together for a relaxing day of food, friendship, and football.
Many parents find themselves dreading all the hassles of the holiday season
each year, without realizing that their friends-other parents-are in exactly the
same boat. With a little communication and cooperation, parents can work
together to make sure everyone in their circle has as pleasant a Christmas as
possible.
Gail and Darin love Christmastime, now. They're able to share the joy of the
season with their children and spend time alone together, as adults, in ways
they thought they never would-at least for another decade. About the Author Brought to you by Imaginary Greetings, focused on how families get by in this wonderful world of ours. To help create the perfect family holiday scene in your home and for the best selection of GKI/ Bethlehem Lighting visit http://www.holidaylighting.com.
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