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Spoiled Rotten Angel
By J Gardener
You really lucked out, in the child lottery, didn't you? Just look at her,
that daughter of yours. She's beautiful, obviously-everybody says, she's going
to have movie star looks, when she grows up. She's healthy-just the usual
childhood illnesses, and she's in the ninetieth-percentile of height, for her
age. It goes without saying that she's smart-she was the best thing in the
kindergarten Thanksgiving pageant last year, (O.K., so she flubbed a couple of
lines; at least you could hear her!).
But, if she's so perfect (and she has such perfect parents), what's that
nagging fear, in the pit of your stomach?
"BUY ME THAT DOLL!!! NOW!!!"
Oh, right. It's the fear that maybe, just maybe, she might be the teeniest,
tiniest bit…spoiled. But what a voice, huh?
Kids today are blasted with advertising, from the time they're cognizant.
From TV ads, warning them that they can't live without the latest new and
improved …whatever… to billboards at the soccer field, young children are the
focus of multi-billion-dollar campaigns to separate parents from their
dollars.
So, how do you say "no" to an angel?
The best way is to start when she's young. Your toddler won't understand the
concepts of value and money, but if you start that discussion early in her
development, she'll be used to it, by the time she's old enough to understand.
She'll test you, when you say no-that's her job, as a growing human being.
Another part of her job is learning her boundaries and yours. If you say no,
gently but firmly, and stick to it, she'll learn, eventually, that nagging and
begging doesn't work.
Make her work for it. Even young kids can understand the concept of reward.
Add some new chores, to her normal, daily ones. If she completes these new
tasks, regularly, promise her the new…whatever…as a prize. She'll start to
understand the value of work, as well.
TV is the great babysitter of our time, but you can limit the amount of
commercial TV your daughter watches, and thus, her exposure to advertising.
Parents who do this often find that, when they go shopping with their kids, many
of those toys that look so big and pretty on TV seem so small and junky on the
store shelves, and their kids are far less attracted to them.
Even grocery stores know how to snag your daughter's interest. Toys and candy
fill the shelves at the checkout lane, and she's bound to want something. Show
her your list, before you go shopping, and explain that the purpose of the trip
is to buy things the whole family needs, and that if it's not on the list, you
don't need it. Or make a deal with her, before the trip to the store-if you have
enough money, after securing the family's needs, you might buy her one small
item, if she's been helpful and well-behaved. A lot of parents find it easier to
do the grocery shopping during times when their children can't go-during school
hours or later in the evening.
The most important thing you can do for yourself and your perfect angel is to
realize that your daughter's tears don't necessarily make you a bad parent.
Setting limits-even limits on new…whatevers-will help teach her responsibility,
and make both your lives much more pleasant, in the long run. About the Author Brought to you by Imaginary Greetings, a regular contributor of valuable family oriented articles. To help create the perfect family holiday, for the best selection of Christmas trees, lights, decorations and everything else Christmas, visit Santa's Depot.
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