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Family Time Takes a Backseat
By J Gardener
If it's Thursday, it must be soccer. Or ballet. Or piano, voice, religious
school, jiu-jitsu, or t-ball. Or is that Wednesday?
Between school and all the available extracurricular activities today,
kids-even very young ones-can seem busier than their working parents. Of course,
we all want our children to have every advantage we can give them, and so many
of the activities which used to be offered in school have been eliminated by
budget cuts. And, gone are the days of kids jumping on their bikes after school
and roaming neighborhoods with their friends, until dinnertime-it just doesn't
seem safe, anymore.
So we, as parents, feel obligated to provide supervised activities which not
only benefit our kids, physically, but also round out their lives in ways we
never could have imagined, when we were young.
It can be challenging, Michael's only seven, but he really enjoys soccer, and
he's good at it. And Michelle is nearly six, but all her friends are taking
ballet, and she feels left out, if she doesn't get to dance, too. But soccer's
on one side of town, ballet's on the other, karate's across the river, and the
only really good gymnastic instructor for kids is in the next county. When does
it all become too much, for a family?
One sure sign that you're all too busy is lack of family time. When
after-school activities prevent a family from ever eating together, or spending
quality time together, then it's time to cut back. Parents who spend more time
chauffering their kids than talking with them at the dinner table eventually
find themselves disconnected from their children's emotional growth. And, when
one parent is driving to and from swim practice, while the other is doing the
laundry, and the only chance to eat is at a drive-thru restaurant, the lack of
family contact can create stresses that build slowly, but surely.
Another sign that your kids may be getting too much of too many good things
is a decline in their grades at school. Sometimes, we keep our kids so busy that
they're just too tired for homework and studying.
Then, there's the financial cost. For every activity, there's the enrollment
fee, the cost of uniforms, the gasoline required to get there. When parents find
themselves struggling to find the dollars to pay for it all, it's time to
re-assess.
Set some rules: One sport a season, or one arts activity at a time, is plenty
for any child. Balance activities between children, so that no one is busier
than the rest. Schedule family time, even if it means cutting out other
activities. Make schoolwork the number-one priority, and other activities a
reward for good grades.
One thing many parents today have forgotten is the importance of free time.
Because our lives are so busy, we imagine that teaching our kids to remain
constantly active is a lesson that will help them cope with adulthood. We forget
that, sometimes, the best part of being a kid is not having to do anything at
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