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Mommy...It's Football Season. Daddy's All Weird Again.
By J Gardener
If you're a football widow and the mother of a small child, it's a
question you may have to face this fall. You may be hit with variations:
"Why does Daddy paint his face blue (red/green/silver, etc.)?'; "Why
does Daddy yell at the TV?'; or, "Why does Daddy hate the blind man named
'Ref'?'
Over the years, you've come to dread September, but you've managed to cope
with this dirty little family secret. Still, it's impossible to explain to
a child the concept of football, the most complicated sport on the planet.
And, she's probably not ready or able to accept the fact that she's a
football orphan, that Daddy has a madness that seizes him every autumn—a madness
that turns him into a raving maniac, who wouldn't notice, if the house caught
fire. Can she possibly understand that her real Daddy will be back, sometime in
January? (Although, depending on how the season went, he may be unusually
giddy or depressed, for a few weeks…)
Don't even try explaining—you won't be able to hide the underlying resentment
you have for this incomprehensible and selfish sport, which steals your husband
from his family, four months a year. Instead, try using these afternoons as a
time for special activities involving you and your child.
A trip to the park or a scenic drive can be fun and educational. Many
city zoos and museums have special Saturday and Sunday rates in the fall, just
for moms and their kids. With autumn weather unpredictable in many places,
it's a great time to take in a movie with your daughter, or shop for
back-to-school needs. One fact you should know, by now—you
can't change Daddy or his devotion to the game. It's a part of who he is
now. Men actually ask each other, as a way of introduction, "Who's your
team?', the same way they ask, "What's your profession?' , or "Are you married?'
It's a way many men identify themselves. So don't expect or demand
that Dad give up his games to be a part of every weekend outing.
Chances are, though, Daddy has a secret he hasn't confessed, even to you:
There's a part of him that wishes his football addiction didn't take up so
much time. He really does want to be a part of his family's life.
So, instead of keeping him from the games, try bartering the time with
him—for every hour he spends watching football, ask him to commit an hour to his
family. You'd be surprised how many men will grab the opportunity to solve
this dilemna, and still be able to watch their games, guilt-free.
Beware, though—at some point, he'll try his best to get your child to love
his game as much as he does, killing both birds with one stone. And, who knows?
He may be successful—your daughter could be a cheese-head before she's
five. In that case, be prepared to spend a lot of weekend afternoons the same
way you have, since you met him. Napping. About the Author Brought to you by Imaginary Greetings, a regular contributor of valuable family oriented content. For additional tips on how to truly light up your child's eyes this holiday season like never before with personalized letters from Santa Claus.
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