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11 Keys To Lifelong Romance Every Day : Part 2
By Judith Sherven and James Sniechowski
© 2006
Keeping love and romance alive is pretty simple, really. All it
takes is both giving and receiving.
A little bit of attention will reap a great deal of affection.
This is the continuation of 11 Keys to Lifelong (and
everyday) Romance, Part 1. Below are keys 7-11 to
keeping your love and romance alive.
7. ADVENTURE: stretching the boundaries of what is
known and familiar such as travel, cultural events, exploring
what they can learn from one another, anything that breaks
up their routine.
** We travel outside the country at least once a year and
inside the country as often as possible.
** We learn from each other's interests and skills (Judith
appreciates
nature because of Jim's passion for the mountains and
clouds and stars. Jim is an experimental cook because of
Judith's comfort in the kitchen, etc.).
8. CONFLICT: responding to the inevitable clash of
differences by understanding that change is at hand and that
they need to understand one another more deeply. That way
their love deepens both between the two of them and in their
individual capacity to expand beyond self-centered need
and demand..
Even after almost fifteen years together we still clash from
time-to-time. We know there's always something for both of
us to learn when it happens. And we know that each time
we end up feeling closer and more in love -- because we've
once again gone through the dark underbelly into the light
and we are trustworthy allies through it all.
9. ADMIRATION: frequently voicing praise and respect for
specific talents, accomplishments, skills, and personality
traits. Paying compliments often. We compliment one
another's writing, cooking, humor, interpersonal skills,
appearance, kissing, you name it. And we do it a lot. Why
be stingy with the one you love!?
10. APPRECIATION: saying thank you for almost
anything. Making sure to never take one another for
granted. A sincere "thank you" is another undiscovered
aphrodisiac
We thank each other for washing the dishes, taking out the
trash, going to the recycling center, picking up a gift for a
party and for all the times we really treasure the kindness
and/or compassion of the other.
11. RECEIVE: We've all heard it said that it is better to give
than receive. Well imagine a world in which everyone is
giving and no one is receiving. Does that sound like fun?
Remember all those times you gave someone a compliment
and they brushed it off. How did you feel? Not so good,
right? Because giving is only one-half of the experience.
Now remember those times when you gave a gift and
someone received it wholeheartedly. How did you feel?
Need we say more? After all, no one can feel loved if they
aren't consciously receiving what is given to them.
It's All in the Connection,
Judith & Jim
About the Author
Judith Sherven, PhD and Jim Sniechowski, PhD work together to share with other couples the strategies they've discovered for keeping love and romance alive for a lifetime. To claim their secrets, go to http://www.makingtheordinaryextraordinary.com
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