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11 Keys To Lifelong Romance Every Day: Part 1
By James Sniechowski
by
Judith Sherven and James Sniechowski
© 2006
Keeping love and romance alive is pretty simple, really. All it
takes is both giving and receiving.
A little bit of attention will reap a great deal of affection.
Here are the first 6 of our 11 Keys to Life Long (and
everyday) Romance.
1. HUMOR: special nicknames, private jokes, laughing with
appreciation at one another's clever wit and funny
comments
Nicknames: Judith calls Jim the "Towel Thief." There's a cute
story behind it.
Jim calls Judith "Oat Muffin." That's not quite as gooey a it
sounds.
We joke about:
Jim being a "ditz" because the doors to his memory bank
always seem to be open
Judith being "the princess" because she's very sensitive to
noise and discomfort of any kind (ever heard of the princess
and the pea?).
Jim loves to pun in response to which Judith often groans
(with affection) Judith sometimes turns into a wee child.
There's the story about the time she "bonked her footie."
2. PLAY: water fights in the pool, wrestling together with
the dog, feeding the birds in the park, licking cake batter off
the beaters and one another's noses, silly cards and gifts.
We:
** feed the horses and donkey down the road
** take moonlit walks in the snow
** make bets over almost anything, with ice cream being
the ususal payoff
** give little funny gifts with special meaning (dog pencils
for Jim who was a dog in another life) teddy bears for Judith
(who never got to be a kid when she was little) and wind-
up, mechanical walking hearts for Valentine's Day or just
whenever.
3. AFFECTION:
** touching one another
** kissing just for fun
** cuddling while watching TV
** saying "I love you because.........(and describing why)
** buying the other's favorite foods at the market
** special time in bed before getting up in the morning
We often tell each other how much we enjoy living with one
another
We hold hands almost all the time when we're walking
We kiss in the kitchen while making dinner
We hug a lot And we leave special love notes around the
house from time-to-time
4. CURIOSITY: Every one of us wants to be known and
valued for who we truly are. Having someone we love be
curious about us is genuinely flattering. It's also the least
known and often most powerful aphrodisiac everyone has
available with merely a sincere question.
After almost fifteen years together (fourteen married) we
are:
** Still curious about one another's childhoods and past life
experiences.
** We ask about differences of opinion re: movies, news
stories, people we meet, politics and social issues
** We want to understand one another's feelings when
hurt, disappointed, committed to some project, joyous over
a football victory, pleased with a specially made dinner.
5. CELEBRATION: making a meaningful and fun event for
birthdays and wedding anniversaries, promotions, new
house, new dog, a debt paid off, anything you care about
** We celebrate the day we met as being as important as
our wedding day.
** Rather than exchange gifts for our birthdays and
Christmas we take ourselves on a romantic trip around that
time (our birthdays are in December too).
** We still keep a Memory Book with photos and
memorabilia that celebrates our life together (now 13
volumes full, working on the 14th.
6. RITUALS: anything meaningful that a couple enjoys doing
on a regular basis, like special tailgate parties before
football games, helping the homeless every holiday season,
toasting to one another at dinner each night, adding one
more special plant to the garden each spring, caring for the
baby together, washing dishes. (Romance can be enjoyed
in even in the smallest and most mundane of daily events).
** We hold hands on take-off whenever we fly
** We add Christmas tree ornaments with photos of us to
our tree each year
** We play aunt and uncle to three sets of children in our
town and shop together for the gifts we give them for the
holidays
** And we collect heart shaped things.
Look for the continuation of this article, called กฐ11 KEYS TO
LIFELONG ROMANCE EVERY DAY : Part 2".
About the Author
Judith Sherven, PhD and Jim Sniechowski, PhD work together to share with other couples the strategies they've discovered for keeping love and romance alive for a lifetime. To claim their secrets, go to http://www.makingtheordinaryextraordinary.com.
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