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Deciding on divorce ........
By Michael Sanford
Deciding on divorce is a big decision. You should
understand that you aren't a bad person just because you
think you want a divorce. Your spouse is not automatically
a bad person because he/she may be causing you to feel
this way (or so you may think), you're just people, plain and
simple.
The Mindset You Need To Make This Difficult Decision
You're reading this for a reason...because you have been
thinking about divorce for one reason or another. Being in
"limbo" is a horrible feeling because you can't really get
rooted if you are in limbo...all you know is that you aren't
happy and don't know what to do.
You may feel stuck in a rut or feel like you are wandering
aimlessly. Whatever the case, not being certain of what will
happen can be tough to swallow and only contributes to
your being unhappy. Another reason that this is usually a
tumultuous and arduous time for people who are in this
stage of life because it usually involves self reflection and a
heightened awareness that may never have been reached
before in your life.
This can be most difficult and scary, but I assure you it is
healthy in the long run. When doing this "inward reflection",
you may find out some things about yourself that you may
not like. You may recall some things you had forgotten.
You may realize that this isn't all your fault or you may
realize that you had a hand in leading yourself here too.
Whatever happens from here on in, your mindset has to be
conducive to being brutally honest to yourself.
Since this can be a gut-wrenching time in your life, you
absolutely must realize that one serious danger you face is
making the mistake of not being fully aware that people
don't make clear decisions during heightened emotional
times. You must remember that emotion clouds judgment
and bad decisions are made when the wrong side of your
brain produces something by using emotion rather than
intellect.
This cannot be stressed enough...when making any
decision or thinking deeply about a concept, make certain
that you are logical and impartial to the best of your ability.
You must be comfortable with finding flaws within yourself
and realizing that those are flaws that you agree with. You
must be ready to admit self guilt and self fault, or this won't
work.
If you are thinking about ending your marriage, or are
currently in the divorce process, the most important thing
you need to do is accept responsibility for the outcome of
your divorce. Because a woman's standard of living
generally drops at least 30% after a divorce, the decisions
that you make now can have a considerable effect on your
future.
It is wise to establish a plan of action instead of going into
your divorce blindly. Begin by being well informed and
organized with the Divorce Record Keeper, a
comprehensive divorce considerations help guide. This
resource will enable you to keep track and record
everything about your divorce from start to finish in a easy
to reference fashion.
If it is inevitable that your marriage will end, utilize the
following divorce considerations to protect yourself. Most
importantly, if your spouse has initiated proceedings, do
not sign anything until you are represented and informed
by a lawyer. Also, do not use the same lawyer that is
representing your spouse. Retain your own attorney to
level the playing field and have fair representation.
The actual divorce process is controlled by the participants.
Many people do not realize that not all divorces must end
in contested courtroom proceeding.
Generally, once you have embarked on a contested
divorce process, the types of proceedings from State to
State are similar, but not identical. You should consult with
a lawyer in your State about the specific process.
The length of your case may depend on the state and
county that your case is filed in. It often depends on how
crowded the court docket may be and often may take a
year or more. If contested to trial.
Divorce lawyers can provide sound legal advice and help
you avoid costly mistakes when your marriage ends. The
divorce process involves many legal technicalities that can
affect your well being (as well as your children's) for many
years to come. If you are considering a divorce, or if your
spouse has initiated divorce proceedings, the first thing
that you need to do is consult a divorce attorney who
specializes in family law. Don't take any action that can
affect your rights before seeking legal counsel. To protect
your best interest, don¡¯t use the same divorce lawyer that
your husband has retained.
You can begin your search for a divorce lawyer by seeking
referrals through friends and family, your state bar
association, or searching for divorce lawyers in the
directories found on the internet. Look for lawyers who are
willing to work with you and fight for your rights.
Once you have identified some potential divorce lawyers,
you need to set up an interview to get information on how
your case will be handled and to see if there is good
rapport between you and the lawyer.If you and your
spouse can agree on how to divide your property and
settle issues related to your children, you might consider
an filing out your own forms.
About the Author
For more information on Divorce please visit the Divorce resource center at http://www.divorce-explained.info
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